I get to spend a lot of time with people. People looking to get fitter, faster
and entrepreneurs.
Daily I’m on calls, video conferences or in face-to-face meetings with wonderful people who are taking control of their lives to have more impact and, hopefully, reap the rewards of taking on the responsibility of being a business owner and or healthier human being.
But honestly, a lot of them struggle with the ‘inner’ workings of becoming successful… it is a bigger obstacle than any of the external factors like money or food.
I don’t think you can be
successful until you believe you can be successful.
Until then, you may have spikes of success, but you’ll regress back to that point of being comfortable and stagnant.
You have to upgrade your ‘internal software’ if you want that progress to stick.
For real, success isn’t normal.
Normal is average…and that’s where most people sit.
How many times has someone told you that pursuing your dreams was crazy? Or, your healthy enough, here, eat more
pizza.
Fior me it was hey a real job. I heard that 10X more than I heard people telling me they believed in me and that I should push forward in pursuit of my goals.
I've learned that wasn’t about me…it was about them and their beliefs that success is something for other people…not them.
When people began to tell me great job and you're doing the right thing, it got a huge spike in confidence and relief that stepping out of my comfort zone
was worth it. It pushed me to do more.
…The belief that we can be successful is an inside job.
But to reap the rewards of that belief, we have to let go of all the excuses that get in our way...
· too young.
· not enough experience.
· not enough resources
· not enough time
· my town is not a good
market.
· people here don’t spend money on things like this.
· I tried that once and it didn’t work.
· too old
Unfortunately people reminded me of those on a daily basis.
To be able to succeed as a coach, I first had to succeed in conquering these excuses.
To reach our goals…we have to let go of all of those.
Every successful
person I’ve known has had their share of doubts, just like the ones I just listed…but they acknowledged them and found ways to get past them.
See, they knew that nothing magically fixes itself.
You have to assess where you are and be honest about it.
Then you get clear about where you want to go.
Finally…once you’ve done both of those…you start taking small steps from where you are to where you want to be.
But it all starts with belief that you can get there
and that you do deserve success and that it’s not just for other, special people.
Look…I’ve doubted myself so many times, it’s kind of depressing in hindsight. Completely unnecessary.
But in every instance that I found a way to get past all the excuses and actually believe I could succeed, I not only was able to achieve my goals…I exceeded them.
Accept that success is first an inside job, physically and financially.
And if you need my help in ‘upgrading your internal
software’ , let me know.
Donta MrPainInThePark Finney